I had to write this out
So I do side work as an English tutor for some students that my pen pal Hokuto tutors part/full time.
One of these students, Mari, was literally Hokuto’s student like he was his full time teacher and Mari just transferred to a real school, so now we only work with him after school or on the weekends.
I caught up with him after his first week of school and Mari told me that he was being bullied but some kid in his class and that he didn’t want to tell Hokuto or his legal guardian because he thought they’d pull him out of school
(side note Mari is double (German and Japanese) and his parents have him living with some family friends in Japan so he can pick the language up but Mari has been in Japan for 4 years now and he’s not super great with the language still, he speaks English at home and practices French and German on the daily (this kid attracts European tourist like a magnet) so Japanese is not so great even after so long).
Anyway he told me this kid was doing petty things at first like smudge his glasses or take them but as the week went on things escalated. Mari told me he had had a basket ball thrown at his head - he caught it but it was thrown none the less. He told me “I thought things like this only happened in school dramas”. That broke my heart.
I wanted to be able to reassure him that it was because *insert stereotypical parent reasoning for bullying* but I couldn’t; he needed legitimate reassurance and help, first. Second I was bullied through out school and I know that some bs reasoning was going to solve anything.
I am literally thousands of miles away from him and feeling helpless like that isn’t my thing and I would not stand by and do nothing. So I made my own decisions and I told Hokuto and Mari’s guardian. I don’t know if it’ll make anything better or if it’ll just make things worse but I had to do something.
I’ve never understood how children
or people in general could be so hurtful to each other, like really what are you gaining by putting someone else down or by tormenting them physically (throwing their things around, intentionally harming them, etc.,) This poor kid is 14 and he’s going to have to deal with being called “transfer student” for the rest of the year as is so why kick him while he’s dealing with that?!
I’m hoping I made the right choice in speaking up for him.